It's 'Now' or 'Now'

A couple of months ago, just when everything seemed to be going great, I gave a visit to my grandpa's place. My grandpa, who was all healthy for his age, was on bed when I saw him; he had stopped responding all of a sudden. He was trying really hard to breathe. We put all our efforts to make him respond for half an hour. His condition only got worse. For the first time in my life, I saw someone close to me being taken in an ambulance not knowing that he wouldn't return back alive.

Few months ago, I heard from a friend that her mom is in critical condition in the hospital. She had cancer, which was diagnosed only in the last stage. No medication would work. She passed away within a week.

A couple of weeks ago, my aunt slipped and fell down; she ended up having multiple fractures. It will take her months to start walking normally again, for something that happened in a split second!

Could she have done anything about it? Could my grandpa do anything about his life? Could my friend save her mother's life in any way? Can any of us avoid something like this happening to our near ones or us?? The answer is an obvious 'no'. That made me think for a moment - We get all stressed and all worked up trying to control our lives 3 - 4 yrs from now! Is the very next moment in our control? 

Someone who's in 12th is worried about getting a job 4 yrs later. Someone who has a 5yr old kid is worried how she'll fare in her 10th grade. Someone who's getting married is worried if she'll be happy in her new house (No, that's not me) Someone having a daughter is worried every moment if she's coming back home safe. Someone at job is worried about promotion two yrs later and this and that and the list goes on. Planning, anticipating and working towards it are justified; just "worrying", getting tensed and stressed out aren't!

While you are spending those few moments in worries, you're losing your precious present which was "future" few moments ago. I don't even know if this article is gonna reach my blog, so is there a point in me worrying how people are gonna take it? Instead, I can give my complete focus to what I'm writing and how I'm writing this very moment and be sure that I've given my best, enjoying the whole process of penning down my thoughts!

All I wanna say is, the next time your mind tends to worry, ask yourself if that's gonna help your present or future in any possible way, unless your favorite pastime is to worry and get worked up! Since the answer is 'no', give a smile and say "I'm gonna live this moment and not the next moment which I'm not even sure if it's gonna be mine!"

Relax and have a happy weekend :)

What's Your Problem?!

Problems, problems, problems – who has not faced them? I have, you have; the person whom you have a problem with also has! I often come across people exclaiming statements like “Why do I have all the problems in this world?”, “I’m in deep trouble!”, “Why me of all people?”, “You don’t understand my problem!”
The question is not “What’s your problem?”; the question is what you do with them!

I believe in the statement – “In every problem lies an opportunity”. I know you tend to think this is nonsense when you are really depressed and confused and cannot think of a solution. But trust me, Life gives you a problem so that you overcome one of your weaknesses or learn a valuable lesson or to prepare you for the future. All having the same meaning – Opportunity!
So the first and foremost thing you absolutely have to do with a problem is to change the way you think about it. Plastic surgery is very much necessary. Then look at it once again.

But before all this, I mean, before you feel you have a ‘Big’ problem, there’s something you can do. Consider this: Life always throws small stones at you to make you realize something. But you ignore them saying “How can these small stones affect me?!” Next, the stones come in a slightly larger size. This time you are a little hurt but you still ignore them because you feel they can’t put you down. They get larger next time and you still don’t decide to deal with them. You ignore them once again. Finally comes a day when Life decides to send ‘one big boulder’ your way! That’s when you end up saying statements I’ve quoted in the beginning.

If you can just recognize those small stones and start learning at that very moment, probably the big boulder would never come your way. It’s easily said than done. But it’s easier in life any day! If you cannot recognize those small stones, start observing yourself when you procrastinate anything. That’s a signal. Never postpone something, have a ‘Do it NOW!’ attitude always.

Do post in your comments if this post helped you in any way. Any kind of feedback accepted. Thank you!